I know you men aren't supposed to be as good with the feelings. Dads hang out and share tips and stories just as much as we mamas do but they don't feel the need to call it a tribe or layer it with sanctity the same way we do. I get that it's largely the women who are sharing all the Mother's Day encouragement. But, surely, the need for empathy still exists. So here's a moment, small and quiet, from me to you.
To all the childless fathers, to the fatherless children, to the men struggling with infertility, to the ones whose partner chose abortion when he wished she wouldn't, to the men who walked away for a really shitty amount of time but came back, to the single dads who have been pulling double duty all along, to the ex live-in boyfriends who used to do dad things and now can't, to the sperm donors who gave others the gift of fatherhood, to anyone who needs it… I see you. I haven’t forgotten you.
And to all the bog-standard #blessed, typically awesome dads who are living regular old lives? You think Father's Day is just about grilling burgers and enjoying family time? Yeah, well here’s my gift to you: a big fat dose of #momguilt like we live with all the time. No, there is never a day that is just about you.