- I now buy products that are good for my body and the environment. I was so worried about toxins not entering my baby that I realized I need to also be conscious of what I put on my own body. So instead of buying scented lotion from Victoria's Secret (because let's be real I'm not my 20-year-old bomb shell self), I religiously use coconut oil. My skin is always smooth and smells fantastic.
- I have a meditation app and when I don't want to deal with their shit, I hold my phone up, say I'm going to meditate, and walk away.
- I've committed to running for my own fitness and mental and emotional stability. No matter how tired I am, I carve out time in my week to do it.
- I go to bed as early as possible now that I have ANOTHER newborn who doesn't sleep much. So, rather than staying up late and mindlessly scrolling through my phone, I honor that I need sleep.
- I've been eating better -- not even so I can be skinny again, but because I'm so severely sleep deprived that I know I need my protein and whole food. For example, I had grilled chicken, walnuts and a banana for breakfast today. But then I also let myself indulge because the sugar and caffeine keep me going, too! So, today, I also had a mocha cold-brew coffee and doughnut holes.
- Before kids, when I got my hair done, I kept it simple. Just a trim and cover up the grays. Now, I feel zero guilt about spending a small fortune on attempting to make my dark brown Sicilian hair platinum blonde because, hey, mama has to do something nice for herself.
- I purchase fancy, high-tech, expensive new pee (leakage) underwear.
- I've learned to take care of my mind and quiet the negative thoughts about myself. I find time for yoga and to love myself, which has helped my sex life, too. Even though I'm heavier than before, and I pee myself daily, I am more open to letting my partner serve me in bed from just adjusting my mindset.
- I'm open to seeing a mental health therapist if that is what I need to be my best self.
- I do whatever it takes to find happiness -- every day.